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Lucy M. Raoof, M.A. Ed. 
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It’s a new year, which means new resolutions and a fresh opportunity to make some changes in your life.

by Lucy Mauldin Raoof

Normally, your resolutions include a list of things you want to do. This year, take a moment to focus on the person you want to be.

According to experts, 40 to 50 percent of the population make New Years resolutions — and approximately 30 to 40 percent of those resolutions will be broken by the end of the first week! What that track record means is that when some people set goals, they are really setting themselves up for failure.

Here’s a Different Approach for 2010

Far more important than “what do you want to do” goals is a set of “what do you want to be” goals. What you are ultimately determines what you are going to do — which is why it’s always a mistake to decide what you want to do before you determine who or what you are.

A person’s potential or talent sometimes propels them farther and faster than their character or maturity can sustain. We see examples of this in the media with reckless behavior by politicians, entertainers, and sports figures. These failings should remind us all that setting achievement goals before you have established some character goals is a mistake.

In his book Seven Habits of Highly Successful People, Stephen R. Covey suggests that you write down what you would want people to say about you at your funeral: “What you want said about you in the end, is your personal definition of success.” As you identify these things about your character, you will find that they build a perimeter around your behavior.

That perimeter soon becomes so hardwired in your makeup that anytime you stray outside it, you will feel like a failure.

Make your New Year’s challenge setting “BE” goals. You’re going to be “something” in 2010, so why not decide for yourself what you want to be. Feel the magnitude of this commitment. These goals need to seep from your mind to your heart to form a subconscious perimeter around your behavior. They’ll help you discover who you really want to be.

When you are sincere in these endeavors, you will have a “new” sense of purpose — and you will find that others will work with you to help you become the person you want to be. You’ll also find that you’re a lot more motivated to be the person that God has called you to be.

Lucy M. Raoof, M.A. Ed, is a native of Murphy, NC, and previously taught Business Education for the Buncombe County School System; and presently is the Vice- President of Operations for Mauldin Brand Agency of Atlanta, GA. As a world traveler, she is the Owner/President of “Juice Unlimited,” an International Business, Consulting & Special Events firm. For Speaking or Business engagements, Ms. Raoof can be reached at:  This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it

 
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Re:A New You Resolution
Aug 25 2010 11:22:12
The first day of the year symbolizes a new start for many people — a time to clean out the failed resolutions from the previous year and a chance to go at it again. While there isn’t much difference between January 1 and any other day of the year when it comes to changing something in your life that needs changing, many people like the idea of starting on the first day of a new year. But if you’re one of the many procrastinators who haven’t gotten around to making their New Year’s resolutions yet, don’t worry, there is still plenty of time. You can start on any day of the year and track your progress from that point onward. If you’re like most Americans, one of your highest priorities will be getting more exercise. Here are a few suggestions for making your exercise resolution stick.

1. Start Slowly. Many people decide to start exercising by joining a local gym or buying a piece of exercise equipment. They are really excited about getting in shape and their overzealousness often leads to soreness, fatigue, pain, or boredom (not to mention an additional financial cost). After a couple of months, they decide it is too much and quit. The key to sustaining regular exercise is to not be too ambitious at the start of your program -- maybe 15 to 20 minutes a day for the first couple of months – so that you’re able to comfortably build the new routine into your schedule without it overcoming you.
2. Build Social Support into Your Exercise Routine. Do anything possible to make your exercise routine a social activity. Talk on the phone with a friend; go walking/wheeling with a local neighbor a couple of days a week; take a group exercise class. The more social contact you have during exercise, the more likely you’ll stick with it.
3. Keep it Simple. Don’t make exercising harder than it has to be. Keep the exercise program simple enough to do at home, outdoors, or in a gym and make sure that preparing for your workout routine doesn’t require loads of time. If it takes a great deal of time and effort to get into your gym clothes, try exercising in your street clothes, provided you don’t perspire too much (I’ll leave that one up to you!). The less convenient and portable the exercise routine is, the more likely you’re going to quit before the next month begins.
4. No Excuses. There are days when you’re going to wake up and feel like the world is upside-down. This sounds like a good reason for skipping the exercise routine, but is precisely the reason you should exercise that day. Stress, depression, and fatigue can all be improved upon with a few minutes of exercise. On days when you’re not feeling well, throw a Yoga tape or chair exercise video into your DVD player and get your mind to relax. It will change your brain chemistry and make you feel better. For examples of exercise videos, go to http://www.ncpad.org/videos/.
5. Exercise at the Same Time of the Day. Researchers have noted that people who have a regular time of the day that they work out have a higher rate of sticking with their program. Find the time of day that works for you. For individuals with rheumatoid arthritis, later in the day might work better since there is usually more stiffness in the morning. For people with multiple sclerosis or post-polio, earlier in the day is usually better because they generally have lower rates of fatigue compared to early or mid-afternoon.


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A New You Resolution
Jan 29 2010 07:29:55
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This is great advice from Ms. Raoof. I have certainly failed many times in the past by focusing on action based goals. Within this last year, I began to focus more on identity goals. It's become much easier to evaluate what I'm doing in terms of whether it matches that ideal identity. Actions are easily dropped that don't fulfill that vision, and it's amazing when finding serendipitous actions that do.
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